Most people know me as a sexuality speaker and educator. I also take on a limited number of dating and sex coaching clients. Notice that I purposefully used the word "limited". I have to admit that it is probably not the best money making business model.
Let me make it perfectly clear that being single isn't the worst thing in the world, make you a loser, or something to be embarrassed about. Many people have come to the conclusion that being alone tends to work much better for them than being coupled, and they make a conscience choice to not date. All too often I think we as a society buy into the myth that we need someone to complete us. Most of the people who do contact me, on the other hand, are looking to me for coaching around how to be more dateable. They have come to the conclusion that, for whatever reason, being alone sucks.
I feel like some individuals take advantage of my free 20 minute phone consultation only to bust my metaphorical balls. Some ask me why I don't have many Yelp reviews, and all I can say is people are not comfortable writing a review that would "out" them as a person who needed my type of coaching services. I'm not complaining and I'm fine with not having lots and lots of Yelp reviews. I do mention that a full page of testimonials can be found on my website.
I sometimes get asked about what my "specific qualifications" are for doing what I do. This isn't always an easy question to answer, since I am never sure what they are really asking me. First of all, there is no dating/relationship coaching certification in the State of California or the United States. I say that I hold a Bachelor's Degree in Sociology, and my entire professional life has involved working with people who are dealing with relationship challenges. I freely admit and own up to the fact that not all my personal relationships are what I would call "easy". Regardless, I tend to make friends pretty readily and my super power is getting complete strangers to open up to me about very personal matters within minutes of just meeting me.
When I get that uncomfortable feeling that a person on the phone is bordering on interrogating me around my business, I remind them that they are the one who is coming to me, and the answers to their questions can be found on my website. It is pretty clear that the person needs coaching, but their lack of etiquette makes them less desirable to work with. The cantankerous Catherine in me really, really wishes I could just say:
"Hey, I'm not the one calling me for help, I don't have problems connecting with people, and I've been married to a great man for over 15 years, so you either want my help or not."