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Followers of my blog are aware of my deep fixation with all things anal. Yes, it is a bit odd, and this is particularly true because I'm personally not the biggest fan of receiving anal sex. I've said it before and I'll say it again--I like the idea of anal much more than the reality of anal.
In any event, I could not let the month of August pass (after all, it is anal health & sex month) without dedicating at least one blog post to a topic I am known for going on and on and on about (starting to get the picture?)
The anus is the lower end of the rectum where bodily waste exits the body. It is controlled by 2 sphincters that often work in opposition of one another. Most people have pretty good control over the lower sphincter--fyi, I'm squeezing mine right now. It's the inner sphincter that has a tendency to go rogue on people. This is the single most important reason to never, ever, ever, ever, stick something up your ass that doesn't have a base or a flange.
Remember that the anus is a hungry orifice (think about the board game Hungry Hungry Hippo), and it can also be greedy. It is completely possible for items to get lost in your body--this is often the time in which you hear the term "foreign rectal object removal".
Now that we can agree that one shouldn't stick various household supplies or even sex toys that aren't intended for anal use up their bum, let's move on to what other things my anus does not need.
Ahhh, good ole anal bleaching. I almost certain you have heard about it before. Is it due due to more people shaving their entire genital region? It is because more and more mainstream pornography contain anal sex scenes? My humble opinion is that the phenomenon of anal bleaching is due party to what I mentioned above and partly due to genital shame.
Coloring of and around the anus has almost nothing to do with cleanliness. Hormones, ethnicity, and age can affect the melasma (pigmentation) on our body. Think of it as being similar to age spots on the hands, only these are on and around your anus. People of all ethnicity have been using whitening or skin bleaching creams for decades. The most common of bleaching ingredients is something called Hydroquinone. It's effective, but researchers have long stated that frequent use can cause some serious side effects including cancer, liver, kidney, and mercury poisoning. Ok, now that I mentioned mercury poisoning, I'm automatically thinking about the douchey actor Jeremy Pivens who left a stint on Broadway early claiming he had mercury poisoning.
But I digress.
There are all sorts of anal bleaching kits you can purchase off the internet. Also, many day/medical spas have begun to offer genital bleaching. If you ask me, none of this is particularly good news.
Anal bleaching, even when using products that are less harmful or potent than Hydroquinone, is NOT a trend I can get behind. At the very least you may end up with a painful, irritated, and inflamed anus. At the worst, you could end up with cancer. I've heard some people claim you can get something called anal or rectal prolapse from using anal bleaching products, but I haven't been able to find research findings to verify it.
This is something I have only found out about very recently. Ok, you know those people you see who have made body modifications by enlarging the lobes of their ears? Yeah, that is pretty much the same idea behind anal stretching.
There is a whole online community of people who are into anal stretching. There is also a popular porn genre that pretty much involves extreme anal stretching or gaping. For those who are interested in this, you can also purchase dilator sets to better help train your anus into a larger orifice. While I'm not personally into anal stretching, I would highly recommend checking out some of the online communities before you embark on an anal dilation adventure. Remember that the anus is controlled quite nicely by 2 sphincters (the outer sphincter and one deeper inside the rectum). Repeated anal stretching can result in bad things.
What do I mean by that?
Anal (rectal) prolapse is at the top of the list. Some people find that they have caused permanent damage to their outer sphincter which can result in having a floppy anus and the wearing of adult diapers.
You've probably heard about the product anal-ese. For those who are new to anal-ese, it is a lubricating cream that helps desensitize the anal area during anal penetration. Proponents of it say it helps make anal sex more pleasurable and pain-free. Anal-ese isn't the only game in town. There are lots of other numbing creams, sprays, and ointments on the market that are specifically targeted for anal sex.
My issue with numbing creams is this--rectal tissue is highly sensitive and is prone to tearing. Numbing that area can delay pain signals that alert you to possible injury. And yes, it is completely possible to engage in anal sex that results in some significant damage to your anus, rectum, and sphincter.
Anal play can be incredibly hot and erotic when done in a way that is safe, consensual, fun, and informed. Many people consider their anus to be an "exit only" orifice, while others look forward to engaging in anal play with anticipation and zeal.
In any event, the items above are all things my anus doesn't need.
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