Ahh the G spot.
p.s. don't forget to check out the informative and adorable video at the bottom. Sex Nerd Sandra is a big bucket of awesome!
As a sex educator, I talk about it so much that sometimes I forget many people don't know what it is yet alone where to find it.
I tend to talk about playing with the G spot as G spotting, so don't be surprised if you see it come up in this blog post. As far as I know, there is no such G spotting game. It's just a term I like to use.
The G spot is named after Dr. Grafenberg who stumbled upon this mysterious area in the female pleasure physiology around 1950. It can be found by placing a finger or two inside the vaginal canal about an inch and then gently curving your fingers towards the belly button and feeling around. You are looking for something that feels somewhat like a wet sponge (sexy, I know!).
Don't be freaked out if you can't find it. People get so fixated on finding it that it can take the fun out of exploring. I would like to point out that even though there has been some debate as to if the G spot exists, I can wholeheartedly give my sex educator opinion that it does!
The G spot is made up of nerves and connective and erectile tissue. The spongy feeling comes from the spindly like tissue that become engorged when turned on, and it is located between the vaginal canal and the urethra. Pressing or stimulating the G spot can often make you feel like you need to urinate and that it basically because you are applying pressure to the urethral gland.
The analogy I often use when talking about the G spot is this: Think about houses that have air conditioning. Some people just really like knowing it's a feature and never really use it, some people only use their air conditioner when they are really, really hot, some people like using their air conditioner almost all the time.
Don't freak out if you can't find it. Sometimes you need to be really excited for that area to become engorged.
Some women have more of a G spot area and not an exact "spot". Remember to curve your fingers and always search in the direction of the belly button.
Some women have said that locating their G spot can be an exercise in frustration because their G spot tends to be more fluid and move around when touched. Because of this phenomenon, some women describe it as if they are trying to find Waldo.
The general texture of the vaginal walls is really wonderful and silky. If in your exploration you feel an area that is different from the general silkiness, you have probably found it.
Not everyone loves having their G spot played with and this is perfectly ok. Remember my air conditioner analogy? Some people are just ok knowing they have one and that is good enough for them. Similarly, some women only like having their G spot played with when they are really hot and juicy and really turned on.
Pleasure physiology is incredibly fascinating because our preferences and openness to exploration can change during our lifetime. You may be someone who is a frustrated G spoter in your 20's only to find out that you love it in your 40's and 50's.
Regardless of how you feel about G spotting, it is something that should be communicated with your partner(s) at some point. Remember that you are the expert when it comes to your body and what it likes. Being able to share that information with others can not only deepen the connection you already have, but can make for more fulfilling sexual encounters. If you are someone who doesn't like having their G spot stimulated, then your partner should be made aware of that.
If you want to hear much more about G spotting then you should check out the podcast I did with my fabulous colleague, Sex Nerd Sandra. You can listen it to it here, but I warn you that it is chock filled with personal TMI. Seriously, some of my friends look at my differently after hearing the podcast, which can make things a little awkward. I also talk about which sex toys are my personal favorites when engaging in G spot play. It's a long podcast, but definitely worth the listen if this is something that has always intrigued you.