I'm not certain about other sex educators but my home has a disproportionate number of supplies that I use in my work. At any given time, my house easily has over a hundred sex toys. My house isn't what you would call baby or even dog safe as I am almost always charging a number of sex toys either on the floor or close to the floor. As a sex educator, I'm also known to buy batteries in bulk.
Where I keep my books and a small portion of my sex toy supplies
My most important sex educator supplies are probably my reference books. I have a double bookshelf full (actually over-filled) of books related to sex and sexuality. I also have 2 other book cases devoted to my body language, flirting, and dating reference books. When I started in sex education, I pretty much carried around a binder filled with information, research, and answers to my most common questions. After all, I got into sex education so I could provide information that is accurate and accessible. Even though I don't look up information to the degree I used to, I still really like and take comfort in knowing I have them as a reference.
When it comes to sex toys, my cup runneth over. One might argue that I have too many. My feeling on this is that not every sex toy is going to work for everyone, and I like being able to spotlight those toys that are most popular or most asked about.
Sex toys have come a really long way in the past 10 years. Consumers are demanding better quality toys that are made out of body safe materials. What a concept! I remember buying my first vibrator set in Colorado and when I got it home, it was remanded to the back of my closet because the smell was absolutely awful! There was no way I was going to use it and put it in and around my lady parts if I couldn't get past the smell. Looking back, I think it's kinda funny because it reminds me of how humans are hard wired to stay away from things that can harm us (like rotten meat or poisonous wild berries) because their smell and taste are so unappealing. Research on sex toys has shown links between the materials used in the manufacturing of some sex toys and cancer. I'm pretty sure other harmful medical side effects have occurred too, but cancer is kind of a big deal.
The sex toy supplies I bring to my workshops range in size, shape, texture, and color. I chose an assortment of dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, masturbation sleeves, and cock rings. When it comes to non body safe toys, I usually bring one or two as an example of what I don't recommend. You can really tell the difference between a cheap and well made sex toy. Well made sex toys don't have an obvious and overpowering smell, they have the ability to feel pretty rigid or firm and they don't leave your hand feeling like it's oily.
Lesser quality sex toys are popular because they are made in mass quantities, usually feel pretty soft, lifelike, and sometimes squishy, are relatively inexpensive, and they have brand recognition and loyalty. Many of the largest names in the adult movie industry carry sex toy lines. Let's say your favorite porn actress is Tera Patrick. If you go to her website, you can purchse a number of Tera's toys. Masturbator sleeves like the flesh light masturbator is molded after her famous vulva and can be yours for $80.00. You can also purchase her molded vulva/vagina and anus combo replica for $280.00. The problem with these types of toys are what they are made of. These two items are made of something called "Futurotic Plus". You can read more about the material here or here.
A great teaching tool I use is the Jim Jackson medical pelvic model. Instead of being made of un-pronounceable materials, his models are made of natural latex. It's probably not a great option for sex educators who are just starting out because the models begin at $410 before you add shipping and handling. I named mine Flaccid Fred. The first one I ever saw was when Megan Andelloux was presenting a workshop on oral sex and I knew then and there that I had to have one.
If you've read my blog with some frequency then you already know that I loves me some vulva puppets! Dorrie Lane started the "vulvalution" with her hand made wondrous and educational vulva puppets. If you want to support her and her work, please purchase your vulva puppets from the houseofchicks.com website. This is really important because her original designs have been knocked off by other companies and passed off as the original wondrous vulva puppet. Dorrie is the original creator of these, well, wondrous teaching tools!
Lubricants are really important to most sex educators, and I tend to have a lot of it for workshop purposes. Lubricants come in many forms; water based, silicone based, flavored, oil/petroleum based, organic, and something called a hybrid. Hybrid lubes are typically made out of both water and silicone based lubricants. Many people like organic lubes because they are natural and lack additives that can change the delicate ph balance of the vagina. Basically, organic lubes are a great and welcome choice for women who are sensitive to lube (both flavored and unflavored) or prone to yeast infections. Silicone lube is great because the molecules are too big to be absorbed into the body so that means that it doesn't dry out. Silicone lube is also tasteless which is kind of a big deal to some people. While silicone is great for anal play and when you have sex in water, it can tend to stain your sheets. This can easily be avoided by putting a towel down before you engage in sexual activity. Because silicone lube doesn't absorb into the body, it can tend to be more difficult to clean off. It's not so easily wiped away like water based lube, so you will probably have to use mild soap and water to get it off your body. It is also slippery as the dickens so please, please, please use caution when using it in the shower or bath. I'm sure there have been lots of people who have fallen and couldn't get up. Water based lubricants can be found in a gel or cream formula and tend to not be very tasty. Gels can be found anywhere from being very runny to being very thick. Cream based lubes are my personal favorites. They tend to have a thicker consistency (think hand lotion), but tend to taste pretty gross. Oil based lubes can be great for masturbating but are NOT compatible with safer sex supplies because condoms break very easily once in contact with oil/petroleum based substances.
Now that I've shared this information with you, I feel kinda naked.