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I know this can be a difficult concept to grasp. Sometimes when I mention this in my workshops I look out to a sea of confused faces. But guess what, it gets even better. It's also possible for men to orgasm without ejaculation. Interesting stuff, eh?
As a society, I strongly believe that we are too "goal focused/orientated" instead of being "pleasure focused/orientated". People get so caught up in achieving an orgasm that we forget how fun sexual activity can be even in the absence of the proverbial money shot. In fact, it is entirely possible that some people don't even consider sex to actually be sex if that person doesn't orgasm. The bottom line is that many men will only experience ejaculation at the same time of orgasm, and tend to think they are broken or abnormal if anything else besides that occurs.
Most men refer to orgasm as the overall euphoric sensation and general yummy feeling they experience, and ejaculation is the physical act of their pelvic floor contracting that enables ejaculation to be expelled from the body.
Most parents are not properly aware that, when their child is pre-adolescent, masturbation without orgasm is very common, and some maturing boys get a little freaked out the first time they experience a ejaculation. Puberty, like many things when it comes to sex and sexuality, can vary from person to person. For boys, it can begin as early as 9 or as late as 16. Most penis owners experience puberty between 12 and 14 years old. This might also be a time in life when boys are more prone to experiencing "nocturnal emissions", or ejaculation while sleeping.
The medical term for ejaculation without orgasm is "ejaculatory anhedonia", "anorgasmic ejaculation", or "anesthic ejaculation", which, I think, is quite the mouth-full. This is when a person ejaculates without those feelings of release, heightened pleasure, or euphoria. From what I have learned, and remember that I am not a doctor, is that it does not cause any physical harm or injury. It can, however, be emotionally troubling and confusing to the one experiencing it as well as their partner(s). This is especially true if it has never happened before.
The medical term for orgasm without ejaculation is "dry ejaculation" or, sometimes, "retrograde ejaculation" (which is when the ejaculate goes into the bladder instead of through the urethra). I have known some men who have trained them self to orgasm without ejaculating because they didn't want to get caught and/or make a mess. Additionally, multi-orgasmic men can train their body to orgasm without ejaculation.
So, what have we learned? That, for men, orgasm and ejaculation can be 2 separate physiological and psychological experiences. And chances are high that most men will experience one or the other at some point in their life. For some people, it can be a very normal occurrence. However, it can also be a side effect of prescribed medications, a genetic condition, or health concern, in which case it is best to seek the counsel of a good urologist.