In case you aren't familiar with the term "pegging" it basically means that a woman penetrates her male partner's anus with a dildo or other sex toy. Many people may be familiar with the term "bend over boyfriend" since it is the name of a wildly popular porn film that was originally released back in 1998.
For many women, the thought of "taking" their male partner anally is highly seductive. Moreover, many men sexually fantasize about being taken by a female partner. Women may fantasize about anally penetrating her male partner since it can symbolize the ultimate act of sexual domination and control. It may have a lot to do with the topic of domination, but it is also important to point out, that it may have nothing to do with domination or wanting to be in control. Not to confuse matters further, it is also very common for men who are traditionally thought of as being highly successful in business (i.e. doctors, lawyers, CEO's, etc.) to want to sexually act out being submissive. Men who fit into this group often talk about the great amount of personal and work pressure they are under and welcome the chance to not be the person in control.
Many couples who practice the art of pegging usually do so on the down low. It isn't a general topic of conversation (unlike other forms of penetrative sex) because it involves anal penetration. And as many people believe, any male who enjoys any type of anal pleasure is obviously homosexual. **note my sarcasm**
The pure and simple fact is that the anus is a virtual pleasure center of nerves. Regardless of your gender and sexuality, the anus has the potential of being an erogenous "hot spot".
There isn't a whole lot of research on pegging, but as a sexuality educator, I am convinced that more and more hetero couples are engaging (or are at least open) to the activity.
What makes me think that pegging is increasing as a pleasurable sexuality activity amongst heterosexual couples? So I already mentioned that I don't have any scientific data pointing to this, but people who work in retail sales at sex positive toy shops, like Good Vibrations, report the following:
- Harness manufacturers are making products that are of better and higher quality than ever before
- More people are purchasing dildos and vibrators that are designed for anal play
- Sales of Bend Over Boyfriend and The Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men continue to be solid
- Manufacturers are now custom designing and selling sex toy "kits" that are specifically marketed to those people wish to give pegging the good ole college try
When I first became a sex educator, I have to admit that the quality of harnesses was less than desirable. Most were made of some leather-like material, did not look very comfortable or sturdy, and were very unsophisticated looking.
However, a few years ago, I became familiar with a company called Spareparts Hardwear. I swear this company has single handed-ly changed the landscape for harness manufacturers. In short, you can tell that a harness from Spareparts has been made with a lot of time, love, and attention to detail.
These harnesses are totally different from anything on the market because they are easy to take care of and clean. This is an important distinction since they can be sanitized. These harnesses are both hand and machine washable, as opposed to other harnesses that are made out of a leather or leather-like material.
Spareparts material is made out of the same type of material found in exercise/workout wear. That means it is comfortable, lightweight, and breathable. The material is perfect for someone who has sensitive skin (or is looking for a vegan friendly harness) and for anyone who likes to wear a harness for an extended period of time. They also have an adjustable "O" ring integrated into the material so you need not worry about having multiple size "O" rings at your disposal. Lastly, Spareparts harnesses have 2 integrated pockets above and below the "O" ring which can hold bullet vibrators.
Not to mention, Spareparts harnesses are perfect for pegging!