I kind of feel compelled to write this particular blog post because I am still having mixed feelings about my recent "Power Flirting: How to Flirt with Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace" workshop at Good Vibrations.
As far as flirting workshops go, it was quite full with about 15 participants. Many of the participants asked appropriate questions for a flirting for beginner type workshop and some asked not so appropriate questions.
Perhaps one of the most difficult questions to answer is "where can I go to flirt?" I find this question hard to react to because the answer is both very simple "everywhere" and complex "everywhere".
I feel like people are never satisfied with this answer (don't worry I get much more specific) because they are searching for some magical answer that will solve all their flirting problems.
First things first, If you want to be more comfortable flirting, then you need to change the way you live your life. The last time I checked, you aren't going to come in contact with people you could potentially flirt with while you are lounging on your couch eating funyons. Flirting is a bit like the lottery because you have to be in it to win it.
There are flirting opportunities all around us. The key to being successful is that you need to increase your social circle and actively get out of the house.
You can begin your flirting adventure by starting with those people you already see in your daily life, but you have never gotten around to exchanging more than pleasantries. By nature, people are creatures by habit, and the pressure will be low because you already have the feeling that you kind of "know" them. Start small. Begin by talking to anyone who doesn't scare or intimidate you. Remember that by being able to talk to everyone, you will eventually be able to talk to anyone.
The flirting place suggestions I offer up will not work for everyone. Rarely is anything in life that simple. You need to figure out which specific suggestions could potentially work for you while causing the lowest amount of personal stress.
Here are my specific suggestions:
- Coffee and tea houses
- Bars and lounges
- Public transportation
- After work social functions
- Nature and hiking trails
- Gyms (particularly before or after group exercise classes)
- Personal growth or enrichment workshops
- Continuing education classes
- Local community classes like cooking, introduction to art or photography, etc
- Faith based community events
- Street fairs
- Social networking/event sites like meetup.com
- Waiting in line
- Dinner parties
- Sporting events
But what if you still don't think that any of the above suggestions are appealing to you? Well then I might suggest that you consider throwing in the towel, stock up on those funyons you love so much, and prepare to make a bigger indentation on your couch.