Dating Coach. Apparently there is not much information out there about them. To be honest, I am not even sure how other "dating and relationship" coaches operate. I can tell you that I was deliberate when using the term dating coach over the term date coaching since this is far more common a phrase. Strange isn't it?
Even though there ain't much info on dating coaches, I can tell you that hella people need one. Since I can't really talk to what other dating coaches do, I will tell you a little about how I work with Catherine Coaches clients that appear to be coachable.
A dating coach, although they can be in some instances, is not your friend. This is important because friends will often spare your feelings when it comes to unflattering personality quirks, how you dress, and how you generally interact with others. While I'm definitely not a drill sargent, I am quite blunt.
But here's the thing, people who are unsuccessful at dating often need a reality check. Working with a dating coach can be challenging for this very reason. Some people say they are ready for a change, but don't want to do the work to make it happen.
Just so we are clear, here are a few things that I am NOT: an image consultant specialist, match-maker, personal shopper, drill sargent, or hand holder. However, as someone who has always had a bit of a flair for style and someone who spent buckets of my parents money shopping at Saks Fifth Avenue, Neiman Marcus, and small boutiques, I can give you an honest opinion about what your clothing says to others.
Many people I come in contact with dress as if they have just given up on life. Sad, but true. Male clients are either generally sloppy or dress without any flair...in other words, they are boring and forgettable. Female clients are often comfortably too casual. On occasion I will have female clients who swing the other direction and are too made up--too much makeup, too much cleavage, and too much everything.
As a dating coach, I give specific suggestions on how clients can become more attractive to whomever they are interested in. I think the major root of most people's issues it their total lack of self confidence. What I have come to figure out is that building confidence is very learnable.
My job is to work with clients to improve their body image, teach them appropriate body language and how to use said body language to their advantage, how to send out and recognize flirting signs, how to have realistic expectations when looking for a partner, and how to improve general dating skills.
Many of my coaching clients utilize my wingwoman service which can be hugely helpful to those who are more socially shy and awkward. As a wingwoman (I have a 2 hour minimum) I help introduce them to people they otherwise might never talk to. I also assist in making appropriate small talk that can then lead them into more meaningful conversations. I help break the ice and then excuse myself from the conversation so I can observe how they do on their own.
Wingwoman services are helpful to me as a coach because I get to see how a client interacts with others in real time. I can see if they have learned and begun to incorporate the body language and flirting skills we have practiced in private. If they stand there stiff as a board and looking like a dear caught in the headlights then I know there is much more work for us to do.
Hopefully this post helps educate people about the importance and purpose of hiring a dating coach. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them below.
Now, who wants to hire me as their dating coach?