I'm one of those women who have always had way more male friends then female friends. This means that I often have insight into the way they think more then the average female.
Sometimes I find it funny when women seem to be so confused by men and, in particular, what to do with their pleasure anatomy.
Most of what I am talking about will apply to a great number of men. However, all men are different with their particular sexual likes and dislikes so it is best to have an open discussion about this stuff with your man, and do this when you are not already in bed.
- Don't be afraid of handling their private parts! I hear over and over again that many women handle a man's penis like it is made of porcelain. Think about how weird it is when you get a limp handshake...now think about how un-sexy that must feel to a man's privates. A firm handle on the equipment is what most men crave. You should also remember to include touching their balls while you are at it. Men usually love it if you cup, gently squeeze, and fondle their balls. **One caveat is that you never want to be too aggressive when giving a hand job. One of my favorite comedians, Dave Attell, does an entire bit on "what's the deal with the rough hand jobs ladies...it's not like you're gonna pull a better looking guy out of me!"
- Don't forget then men have nipples too! For some men, they can be ridiculously sensitive, and sucking, licking and squeezing them can bring an immense amount of pleasure.
- When it comes to blow jobs, the louder and messier, the better! Most men will find a dry blow job completely un-sexy. If you need to, keep a glass of water next to the bed and keep some of the liquid in your mouth while you pleasure him. Keep in mind that men are very visual and auditory creatures. If you have long hair, consider clipping it away from your face so your man can watch as you do your thing. Also, it may seem gross to you, but try making deliberate sucking sounds. Another thing most men love is when you gag a little when giving them a blow job. It makes them feel like they have a huge dick and they get to live out a porn fantasy. Women, you can control this by taking him a little deeper then you usually do. Make sure you are in control!
- This might be considered a more advanced technique, but many men love it when you suckle their balls. Incidentally, this can also be a huge incentive for your man to keep his pubic hair trim and manageable. If you are unsure what to do with your man's balls, begin by taking one into your mouth and gently rolling your tongue around and around. Once you get more comfortable doing this, try gently pulling his other testicle into your mouth. Now you can gently suckle, hum, or even "gargle" both of his balls.
By now you should have some great insight into what men wished you knew about their bodies. As always, you can thank me later! Now go out there and get em!