Men, you gotta love them! This is especially true if you live in Silicon Valley, which just happens to include the city some lovingly refer to as "Man Jose". If you are living, working, and loving in Silicon Valley, then you already know that men appear to out number us women. You may also have noticed that although a man a woman may be saying the exact same thing, the intention and meaning behind the words are very different.
Here are 3 things to keep in mind when dealing with the women in your life:
- Sometimes we just really need to vent. One of the main ways women bond with each other is by sharing their thoughts and feelings. Sometimes we need to get something off our chest, engage in a little gossip, or work through something personal. This doesn't mean we need or want you to "fix" the particular issue or problem. The best thing a man can do is to provide support to his woman. Acknowledge that you hear what she is saying, support her by saying that you can see how what you are talking about is frustrating, and then connect with her by assuring her that you are there for her.
- Women usually take a baseline "would I ever have sex with you" reading within the first few minutes of ever meeting you. I know this sounds kind of harsh, and it is not true of all women. Men can also redeem themselves if they do not make the best first impression by doing something lovely or endearing. Men, if you want to make a good first impression, make sure you look presentable by wearing clean clothing, maintain good grooming habits, and above all else, remember to smile.
- Every woman wants to know that she is desired and sexy. Making us feel adored, yearned for, and wanted deepens the connection we already feel for you too. It is all too easy to fall into a cycle of "maintenance sex". If you are out at a restaurant, look at her as if she is the only person in the room, spend more time then you usually do caressing and loving her body during foreplay, and while lovemaking, whisper in her ear how beautiful and sexy she is.
Catherine Toyooka is the founder of Catherine Coaches and is a blogger, sexuality speaker, educator, and a dating & sex coach helping busy professionals in Silicon Valley, San Francisco, and beyond. She is also an Off Site Sex Educator (OSSE) and Brand Ambassador with Good Vibrations in San Francisco. Please contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org to arrange your FREE 20 minute phone consultation.