I've talked to A LOT of men about the type of sex they have. There are 2 issues I hear over and over again: 1) Men not being able to keep it up during the process of putting on a condom (yay for condom use!) and 2) Men suffering from premature ejaculation.
Men don't like to use condoms for a variety of reasons. As a sex educator it was important for me to listen to their sex concerns. Occasionally I would offer suggestions or simple alternatives to help enhance their sex lives. Probably my favorite aspect about being a sex educator was when someone would report back to me how my suggestions helped their sex lives.
One of the easiest ways a man can become more comfortable with condom use is to incorporate them into their masturbation routine. I would usually give someone a bag of different condoms and lubricants and tell them to have at it! Actually, I gave them a little more guidance then that. I challenged them to experiment with the different condoms and to put one on their cock as soon as they got hard. Then they could continue to masturbate while wearing the condom. This practice makes men much more comfortable with the entire concept of condoms (most young men end up giggling when talking about them), they usually no longer feel awkward or clumsy putting them on, and they get to have a lot of fun experimenting!
Many sex positive retailers offer condom variety packs and even single condoms. I used to order condoms for the non profit I worked for, and believe you me, there is a ton of variety out there; xx large, flavored, ribbed & studded, non-lubricated, "reservoir" tip, colored, natural feeling, warming, etc...and that is just off the top of my head. Men, don't be shy or embarrassed about going to your local community health clinic, planned parenthood, sex-toy retailer, or pharmacy. If you prefer to shop from the privacy of your home, I would suggest you check out places like Good Vibrations and Condomania.
The other main concern I heard repeatedly was men being self proclaimed "3 pump chumps". That is, men who have problems with premature ejaculation. Most sex workers would love having these men as clients, but many of the men I spoke with reported having lower self esteem due to premature ejaculation. It can sometimes become a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy where a man is aware of his issue, almost expects it to happen when love-making, and then feel humiliated when it happens. Premature ejaculation can happen to any man, regardless of age or sexual preference.
What can you do if you are a man who falls into this category? Masturbate! Hmmm, I guess I tell people to masturbate a lot! My suggestion would be to get an alarm clock, set it for 3 to 5 minutes and then begin masturbating. Really, it's that easy! While masturbating to the clock, do NOT allow yourself to ejaculate before your time is up. This exercise forces you to become acutely aware of your own sexual response cycle. If you feel you are getting too close, back off a little. Each time you masturbate, begin to add a minute or two to the alarm clock. Before too long, you will able to last longer and longer.
So there you have it men, a few easy exercises that you can do to help make yourself a confident, sexual warrior. Don't worry, you can thank me later!