Ok folks I'm a little frustrated!
I don't understand why people won't just let me establish and grow my little business without wanting/asking/suggesting/needing me to do something else? As the founder of Catherine Coaches, I do many things. I am a sexuality speaker, sex educator, and a dating & sex coach. Yes, it is a little unusual, and a friend reminded me the other day that the entire field of "sex coaching" is a relatively new concept to people. On the other hand, because I'm lucky enough to be connected to the pioneering sex-positive San Francisco community, I feel a little like I am playing catch-up. San Francisco has some of the most amazing role models any sex educator could ask for, and I fully acknowledge how truly fortunate and blessed I am to know many of them!
I have worked as a sex educator for over 7 years, and spent the majority of that time serving the young gay male community in San Francisco. Those of you familiar with the culture already know that it can be very sexually charged. As a sex educator, I would often spend hours talking to members and strangers about the type of sex they were having. Even so, I can't really remember a bisexual, trans, or queer person ever suggest that I strap on a harness and give it to them.
So why are so many people (yep, even one of my in-laws) now asking me if my sex educator status means I might engage in sexual activity with them?
I am a sex educator and dating & sex coach. That means we can talk at length about putting your "p" in a "v" or an "a" or a "m"..for those of you who don't get what I just said, p = penis, v=vagina, a=ass, & m=mouth....also it means you clearly have never seen the movie "Forgetting Sarah Marshall". Want to talk about fetishes? Great! Want to kiss, lick, and worship my feet? Bad! I'll even go as far as saying that I can certainly entertain someone wanting to explore their submissive tendencies, and would be happy to tell you how small your cock is if you want to book a coaching session. I can degrade you as much as you want, but you can't take your dick out during the session and begin to pleasure yourself. See the difference?
I can't believe the number of requests I get for tantric massage.....ummm, I seriously don't even know what that is! For the love of god, please don't ask me for a massage! I will think you are stereotyping me into some twisted submissive asian "with full release" massage fetish. This is also a good time to remind people that I am not a sex surrogate. I will not have sex with you. In fact, I will most likely never even touch you...one exception would be shaking your hand when we meet.
I'm also really confused by people asking, requesting, or suggesting I add match-making services. I have very limited knowledge in match-making, but it seems to be a generational, family business. The guy who does that vh1 tough love show and that hot-mess Bravo millionaire match-maker Patti both run businesses that their parents founded. I can prep you for a date or even observe your date during a field coaching session, but I can't and won't set you up with someone. And please don't attend one of my meetup groups expecting to meet your life partner. I have a no-cruising/ no-pickup policy for the group.
If you have gotten this far and are still interested in my services as a sexuality speaker, sex educator, and dating & sex coach, here is a printable brochure for your reference.